02.08.06

Bosom Buddies

Posted in General, Mature at 10:02 pm by st

There are certain risks that come with being a woman or with the aging process, one of which concerns our breasts, our bosom buddies. We have heard of many people we know fall victim to breast cancer and unfortunately many of them regretted not going for a mammogram, which only needs to be done once a year.

I have started going for the mammogram 2 years ago and would like to share the experience with you on what I learned about breast cancer and the importance of mammogram.

There is no known cause for breast cancer but certain factors increase the odds of the disease. A woman is more suseptible if:

  • she is more than 45 years old and has not gone through menopause
  • she did not become pregnant before age 30
  • her mother or sister had breast cancer, especially before menopause and especially in both breasts

As you can see from the above, older lesbians face a higher risk than the general female population. Thus, we should practice self-care for our own sake as well as for our loved ones. For a start, we must start going for mammogram once we reach the age of 40.

Unfortunately, there are usually no symptoms during the early stages of breast cancer; only a mammogram can detect it. Later, however, you may notice:

  • swelling or a lump in the breast
  • an achy or uncomfortable breast
  • one breast that looks different from the other
  • breast skin that is dimpled or pitted like an orange peel
  • a nipple that looks as though it had been pushed in
  • bleeding from the nipple

Left untreated, cancer eventually will spread. Almost all forms of cancer theraphy have unpleasant side effects, and many fail to halt the spread. However, treatment - especially when performed early enough, usually improves the chances.

Do not schedule your mammogram for the week before your period if your breasts are usually tender during this time. The best time for a mammogram is one week following your period. Do not wear deodorant, talcum powder or lotion under your arms or on your breasts on the day of the test. These can appear on the mammogram as calcium spots.

During mammography, a specially qualified radiologic technologist will position your breast in the mammography unit. Your breast will be placed on a special platform and compressed with a paddle (often made of clear plexiglas or other plastic). You will feel pressure on the breast as it is squeezed by the compressor.

Unfortunately this is a necessary pain that we have to go through once a year. A small price to pay in view of the potential risk of not doing it.

Be brave, go for it.

tags: mature, queer, women's health, lesbian

01.06.06

Merger of Young and Old…

Posted in General, Identity, Wise at 9:43 pm by st

This is a part of the monthly column by st on being a mature lesbian and the issues of living it out in gay nation.

When I was asked to share some of my thoughts as a mature (old) lesbian, I realised that there are more things that I don’t know than things that I really know. When I looked into the dictionary for the word ‘Age’, it says:’>how old< the number of years someone has lived or something has existed.’ It gets interesting when it describes wine: ‘improve and develop in quality and taste, over a period of time.’ If only there is a fool proof formula to help me age like good wine…

At the age of 42, I have to learn that life is meant to be experienced; it is not a puzzle to be solved but a mystery to be experienced…

I have always fallen for women since my teens and I thought I had some biological disorder. I had to suppress my true self and ‘act’ according to the ‘normal’ majority in order to find acceptance. Thanks to the internet and fearless young women who are willing to devote their time to help lesbians regardless of age: in 2003, I found out that there is a community for people like me. It was a totally new experience – I was taught to love and accept myself for who I really am and not be ashamed. From then on, there was a lot of unlearning for me to do – I was made aware of my own internalised homophobic behaviour and I learned to really love the people who are important in my life by being who I really am. Life was more fulfilling than before and at last, I have found real acceptance.

If it wasn’t for the fearless women who have helped me, the closet will still be my only playroom and the mothballs my toy. I hope that Sayoni too, will be a platform for all queer women to come together and share our experiences - the young lesbians with their energy and idealism finding a happy merger with the older lesbians with their wisdom and experience, thus enriching the wider community. This is the Sayoni’s vintage – may this site age like great wine!

tags: lesbian, mature, women, queer